The Storm

A person who lives in The Storm is often one who is quick to be slapped with a label based on behavioral characteristics, narcicist and biopolar are two common ones. While narcicistic personality disorder and bipolar disorder can be a diagnosis used by mental health professionals for billing purposes, the diagnosis isn't who the human being is and generally using a label, whether diagnosed or not, is simply a way in which humans give in to fear and hurt other humans. No human being is perfect, we just all vary in the ways we have been hurt and how our brains seek to protect us from further pain. People with these and other storm-like behaviors certainly can hurt other people, just as we all have the potential to, but it isn't through hurling more pain at them that we can prevent pain, it is only with compassion that we can have a chance to.

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Some in The Storm may have only periodic rainy days affecting moods where the lightening and thunder are brief and intermittent, their ability to perform optimally at work or home could be impaired at these times but it's infrequent so the impact is minimal, and overall they can have functional relationships. These individuals can often be referred to as moody, emotionally draining, hard to be around. People who live more days in The Storm than out of it exhibit frequent self-sabotaging behaviors because they often don't feel worthy of kindness and flee from connection. Some people stuck in The Storm exhibit volatile behavior that can feel like a warning as they hurl lightning and sound off with thunder, even exhibiting occasional hailstorms that really tear relationships up. And then there are a fewer number of individuals who have such deeply entrenched pain, often mixed with a long history of drug and/or alcohol abuse, that their rage looks more like tornadoes, hurricanes or even tsunamis where only a wake of destruction is left in their path. These individuals often are suffering significantly and only know how to pass along their pain to others. They can become perpetrators of physical or sexual violence, other criminal activities to support their escape in the form of addiction and often end up incarcerated and/or homeless. 

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If you feel like there is always too much going on inside your mind and body, like a storm is always brewing because of someone or something, and you exhibit behaviors that drive people away from you when deep inside you actually crave for someone to see you, to be close to you, to love you. Let's dig through the pain together to find the blue skies that are always there above the clouds and rain of life.

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The temporary "highs" that are sought through drugs, alcohol, work, sex or porn are attempts to ease the pain. There is no shame in acknowledging how you have survived, but there is hope when you can share however you escape from the reality of your pain and begin to understand how those mechanisms are actually hurting you and your relationships beyond the original pain you are trying to suppress. We can find resources for you to be supported that fit your life, so you can learn healthier ways of dealing with whatever hurts you. You are not a bad person. You have been a human in pain. but you don’t have to remain there. The choice is yours.

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Pain. What're you going to do with it?

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